You know the feeling.
It can happen over practically anything. A friend gets a cool opportunity, buys a house, is more photogenic or gets more vacation days than you. Whatever it may be, sometimes the simplest things can make us jealous.
You may think that it is only inside your head, but it actually affects everything about you and if you’re not careful, it can control you.
Here are 6 simple reasons you should stop being jealous:
- Jealousy Is An Ugly Trait…
This is pretty straightforward.
Jealousy is followed by a plethora of negative qualities and emotions. A jealous person stands out like a sore thumb and is not enjoyable to be around. Oftentimes, envy drives us into a self-conscious, insecure and judgmental frame of mind.
Those traits are quite unattractive to others regardless of how close of a relationship you have with them. No one enjoys a cynical, hot tempered or resentful person, so be aware of how you treat others and how you are perceived.
- Jealousy Will Make You An Awful Friend…
In my previous blog, I wrote about how people struggle being excited for one another. Why can’t we be happy for one another without getting jealous?
Be honest with yourself here. Have you ever been upset when something good happens to someone else? Someone else has the spotlight, and instead of being excited for them, you’re a little irritated.
Chances are, your friends and family can sense that irritation, so be careful not to become the person who others have to walk on eggshells around when good things happen to them. Instead, be the person that others can share their excitement and triumphs with.
When someone shares good news with you, give them a big high-five, smile or shout “That’s amazing!” It doesn’t really matter, just do something that shows you care about their life.
- Jealousy Will Cost You Money & Time…
Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you don’t fall victim to this, because we do it far more often than we believe.
As the saying goes, “We buy things we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people we don’t like”. This may not be 100% true for you all the time, but generally we end up spending silly amounts of money to get things to impress people.
I have seen people spend ridiculous amounts of time trying to become like other people or acquire things that other people have. It’s ok to make goals, or strive to become better, but be cautious of how much time and money you spend trying to be like someone else.
- Jealousy Will Steal Your Unique Identity…
The longer we spend being jealous of someone else and striving to have the things that others have, the less we become our own person. We start to become a carbon copy, molded and sculpted by our petty, ever-changing culture.
Envy has the potential to take over your identity and steal your individuality. You will find yourself chasing the passions and dreams of other people instead of pursuing your own.
It’s ok to look up to people and have role models or mentors, but be careful not to chase someone else’s dream.
- Jealousy Can Ruin Today…
If we aren’t careful, we can end up spending our entire lives waiting for the day that we have everything that we want, or obtaining all the things we never had. In that scenario, our lives can end up being wasted on looking to the future instead of living in the present.
Jealousy will take your focus off of the blessings you have today and instead will set your gaze on things you have yet to obtain.
Make the most of today and set goals and dreams for the future.
My Challenge For You…
Take 2 minutes and write down 5 positive qualities about yourself. Over the next week, be aware of those qualities, and try to improve on them. (Are you energetic? Compassionate? Detail Oriented? Intellectual? Athletic?)
Work on not comparing yourself to other people for just one week and see how it changes your perspective.