Breakfast

Everybody talks. 

If you put two people together they will undoubtedly talk about something.

-The latest episodes of whatever shows are trending…

-The superbowl halftime show…

-How the weather needs to ‘make up its mind’…

There is a good chance you have been a part of one of those conversations, but what about these?

-The way your friend treats his/her spouse…

-The way your neighbor spends their money…

-The way your coworker has been dressing…

Unfortunately, if we are honest with ourselves, we have all been a part of these conversations as well.  As innocent as it may seem, gossip has many negative consequences.

Effects of Gossip:

It Destroys Relationships – It’s difficult to trust someone who is always talking about someone else.

It Ravishes Our Integrity – Complimenting someone to their face and then destroying their reputation behind their back traces back to a lack of integrity.

It Provokes Negativity – Cynicism is the hottest relational ‘drug’ on the market.  Don’t be strung out on cynicism and addicted to the negative rush.

Whether you are all about the tabloids or couldn’t care less, we all should take precautions to help us fight the temptation to tell

Here are 10 things that can eliminate gossip:

1.    Check Your Jealousy At The Door…

Gossip stems from many different things, but one of the prime contributors is jealousy.  If you have jealousy issues, I would suggest dealing with that first.

2.    Avoid Gossip…

This one may seem silly considering its simplicity, but don’t count it out.  Chances are, if you surround yourself with people that gossip (reading or watching gossip as well), it will be increasingly difficult for you to avoid doing it.

3.    Tell The Truth…

This is massive.  There are so many relationships that have been ruined because of lies and over exaggerations.  Don’t stretch the truth to make your story seem better or make up a story about someone else. Be careful about what you share to others, because it may not have been true in the first place.

 4.    Stop Comparing Yourself to others…

It’s easy to take someone else’s life and compare it to our own.  Avoid taking someone’s positive thing and making it your negative conversation.  The more you focus on other people, the easier it is to become cynical and condescending.

5.    Think Positive…

This takes work.  It’s much easier to find the negative in something than it is to find something positive.  Protect your thoughts and be very intentional about what thoughts you communicate to others.

6.    Say ‘Never mind’…

Sometimes during a conversation it’s easy to roll into gossip without even realizing it.  If you catch yourself mid-sentence mentioning someone who isn’t there, just say “never mind”.

7.    Do A Detour Around Sensitive Issues…

We all have sensitive issues and hot topics that make us prone to vent.  If you are around someone who has a tendency to talk bad about Julie, then avoid talking about Julie.  Don’t provoke people into their own demise.

8.    Be Content With Not Being ‘In The Know’…

I hate gossip, but occasionally find myself in the middle of it because I want to be in the loop.  Avoiding gossip requires an acceptance of being on the outer ring of the social circles.

9.    Quit The Drama…

“Remember Julie?  Well, she told Peter that Sharon has a thing for Will, but Will ‘doesn’t want to be in a relationship’ and Peter is the one with a thing for Sharon.  Can you believe that?”  

These types of conversations have to stop.  Don’t let this type of drama ruin your relationships.  In the end, it’s not important.

10.   Be The Protector…

If no one else is doing it, then its time for you to step up and be a leader.  Care enough about your relationships (friends, family, coworkers) to take initiative and spread the truth and positivity while stifling jealousy and drama.

Do you think anything should be added to the list?

How do you keep yourself from gossiping? 

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